How to Block Porn and Set Up Your Digital Environment for Success

🖥️Why Environment Beats Willpower

Here's what most people get wrong about quitting porn: they think it's a test of willpower.

But willpower is a limited resource. It depletes throughout the day. By evening—when most people watch porn—your willpower tank is nearly empty.

The most successful people don't have more willpower. They design their environment to need less of it.

✨The Myth of Raw Willpower

Research shows willpower is like a muscle that gets tired with use. After a day of decisions, stress, and self-control, your ability to resist temptation is at its lowest.

That's why relying on in-the-moment decisions is a losing strategy.

The solution: Make the good choice easy and the bad choice hard. Don't trust future-you to make good decisions—set things up so good decisions are the default.

🖥️The Three-Layer Digital Defense

Layer 1: Content Blockers

Content blockers create a pause. That 5-second delay when a site is blocked gives your conscious mind time to catch up with impulse. It's enough time to remember your why.

Computer options:

• Cold Turkey Blocker (strict, customizable)
• Freedom (blocks across devices)
• LeechBlock (Firefox extension)
• BlockSite (Chrome extension)

Phone options (built-in):

• iPhone: Screen Time → Content Restrictions → Web Content → Limit Adult Websites
• Android: Digital Wellbeing → Parental Controls

Pro tip: Have someone else set the password. If you can easily bypass the blocker, its value is limited.

Layer 2: DNS-Level Filtering

DNS filtering blocks adult content at the network level for all devices and apps.

| Provider | Primary DNS | |----------|-------------| | Cloudflare Family | 1.1.1.3 | | CleanBrowsing | 185.228.168.9 | | OpenDNS Family | 208.67.222.123 |

To set up: Change DNS settings on your phone, computer, or router.

Layer 3: Accountability Software

Accountability software doesn't just block—it reports your activity to someone you trust.

Options:

• Covenant Eyes – Screens and blurs explicit images, reports to ally
• Ever Accountable – Screenshot-based monitoring
• Accountable2You – Comprehensive activity monitoring

Having someone who will see your browsing changes behavior more than any filter alone.

🖥️Physical Environment Setup

Bedroom Rules

The bedroom is the highest-risk zone.

• Phone charges in another room
• No laptop in bed
• Keep door open if possible
• Use a physical alarm clock

Private Spaces

Bathrooms and offices are also risky.

• Limit phone use in bathroom
• Computer screen visible in office
• No extended private time with devices

Device Placement

Make devices less convenient for private use:

• Computers in shared spaces
• TV instead of laptop for video
• Phone stays in bag/pocket when home

✨Removing Tempting Apps

Some apps are gateways to porn even if they're not explicitly sexual:

High-risk apps:

• Twitter/X (allows adult content)
• Reddit (easy access to NSFW)
• Tumblr (adult content possible)
• Telegram (explicit channels)
• Discord (some servers)
• Dating apps (triggering, risky)

Options:

• Delete entirely
• Use Screen Time to restrict access hours
• Use versions with content filtering

✨Browser Configuration

Disable Private/Incognito Mode

Private browsing makes it easy to bypass controls.

• iOS: Restricting adult content disables Safari private mode
• Chrome: Extensions can disable incognito

Remove Extra Browsers

If Safari is filtered but Chrome isn't, Chrome becomes the problem.

• Delete all browsers except the one with restrictions
• Block app downloads without password

Clear Autofill and History

• Remove any saved passwords to adult sites
• Clear browsing history
• Disable browsing suggestions

✨Time-Based Controls

Configure devices to have extra restrictions during vulnerable times:

Screen Time Downtime (iOS):

• Set 10pm-7am as downtime
• Only essential apps allowed
• Password required to bypass

Focus Mode (Android):

• Create a "night" mode starting at 10pm
• Block browser and high-risk apps

✨The "Friction" Principle

You're not trying to make porn completely impossible—with determination, you can bypass any filter.

You're trying to create friction—enough delay that your rational brain can catch up to your impulsive brain.

Without friction: Urge → Action (2 seconds) With friction: Urge → Barrier → Pause → Choice → Exit

That pause changes everything.

✨When You Travel

Your home setup doesn't protect you on the road:

• Maintain restrictions on personal devices
• Hotel WiFi often bypasses home-based filters
• Consider a portable DNS solution or VPN with filtering
• Extra accountability check-ins during travel

✨Setup Checklist

Run through this today:

• [ ] Install content blocker on computer
• [ ] Enable Screen Time restrictions on phone
• [ ] Change DNS to family-safe provider
• [ ] Remove or restrict high-risk apps
• [ ] Move phone charger outside bedroom
• [ ] Disable private browsing
• [ ] Consider accountability software
• [ ] Have someone else hold restriction passwords

You don't need to do everything. But something is better than nothing.

✨Frequently Asked Questions

Won't I just find workarounds?

Maybe. But the friction matters. Creating even modest obstacles changes behavior more than having none.

Is this overkill?

If porn is damaging your life, no. These are appropriate protective measures for a real problem.

What about legitimate adult content needs?

If you're in recovery from compulsive porn use, "legitimate" is often an excuse. Clean slate is safer, especially early on.

How long should I keep these restrictions?

Some people relax them over time as recovery strengthens. Many keep some protections permanently. Better to have them and not need them.

What if my job requires unrestricted internet?

Use a separate, unrestricted work device that stays at work. Personal devices stay protected.